It says, at the top of this Atavist blog page, that my ramblings herein are the ruminations of an unambiguous guy in an ambiguous world. It's true. I am a pretty straightforward guy. I know where I stand. I know what I like. I know what I don't like. I adhere to certain principles in my life and expect reciprocity from people I deal with. With me, what you see (and hear and read) is what you get.
I am, however, tactful. I don't blurt out the first thing that pops into my head. I try to couch things in terms that are as kind as possible, even if I am the bearer of bad news. Incivility, crassness, boorishness, are all things I despise. Why is it necessary, even in the interest of being direct and concise, to be crude and hurtful? I don't think it is necessary.
I have written before about the need of some people to transfer their frustrations onto others. It makes them feel better. No consideration is given, of course, to the fact that then someone else bears the frustration or hurt. Most people that I willingly associate with are smart, quick with a quip, and adept at verbal fencing. I enjoy exchanging jibes with people like this; it is done in a spirit of fun and everyone knows that there are boundaries. I have met some individuals in my life though who don't seem to understand that anything worth saying is worth saying politely and that not everything they perceive as a problem is in fact a real problem for someone else. Deliver me from such people. They suck the lifeblood out of everyone around them. At the very least, they are no fun. At worst, they pollute society.
We are increasingly becoming an uncivil society. I don't like it. It is difficult to avoid it. Do we need to become hermits to get away from it? Is that the only defense available?