In a comment on an earlier post of mine, Bellezza suggested that we each try to create Thursday Thirteen lists, from our own personal perspectives, of what we wished for or expected from our significant others in relationships. So, my list will be from a male perspective and hers from a female’s, but each will be personal and therefore subjective. I have no idea who else might join us in this endeavour, but it would be fun and interesting to see lists created by as many other participants as possible.
So, without further ado, here is my own list. It is culled from the marriages and relationships that have taken up the adult life of a 61 year old man, plus distillations of conversations I have had with numerous other men on the topic over the years. Also, I am a people watcher. I notice things. In my list, there are both 'do's' and 'don'ts.' In my personal experience, the presence of things that are real irritants is sometimes harder to take than the absence of things that please.
The Atavist's Thirteen Things that men want from women:
By the way, I fully expect the women who visit here to be as honest about what they expect from men as I have been about what men expect from women. After all, that's my real name up there on my blog sidebar and I haven't pulled any punches, so tell us what you really think! My wife and I have discussed the male/female dynamic many times and even she doesn't agree with me all of the time. Also, she knows my blog address and visits regularly, so I have to be real careful to get it right.
A reader once commented in response to a post of mine that I sounded bitter. Far from it. I see humour in everything. I treat everything in life as an adventure and try to learn from it. Bad things happen to people sometimes, including me. But, and this is important to remember, unless I specifically say that I experienced something, I might be writing about the travails of a friend or acquaintance. I have seen many examples of truly dreadful behaviour of one sex to the other. Men are as apt to be jerks as are women, just in different ways.
The rotten tomatoes are in the big barrel over there. Before you start lobbing them at me, I think I'll go hide until this blows over.