One of the things that always amazes me is that while we all crave recognition and validation, some of us nevertheless will do everything directly contrary to what we might be expected to do to achieve that end. It's not that we just don't do the things we should do, it is more that we do all the things we shouldn't do. I'm no psychologist or sociologist, but isn't counter-productive behaviour irrational?
I've run businesses, off and on, since I was 17 years old and have had numerous jobs in between. I've had irrational bosses, irrational partners, irrational employees and irrational customers. I've even been (gasp) irrational myself! Yes, many of us can be (and are, mostly) great bosses, partners, employees and customers, and we will behave rationally much of the time. It is that small percentage of yahoos who can be depended upon to do or say exactly the wrong thing every time that infuriates me. And, they don't see their behaviour as a problem. It is everyone else, they think, who is wrong, thin-skinned, thick-headed and near-sighted.
What the hell causes this sort of idiocy? Isn't life complicated enough without it?
I always find it embarrassing when I have to sit down with someone to try to solve some conflict, especially when I think that the situation should never have arisen in the first place. Someone will do or say something untoward and cause thereby some sort of conflict with someone else. Then, I have to deal with the situation. That upsets me. I can get myself into all kinds of trouble, all by myself. I hate it when I have to deal with situations I create by myself. You can imagine how I feel when I have to act as referee to some conflict I had nothing to do with.
Everybody, everybody, will do or say something stupid from time to time. I do. I'm sure you do too. What do you do when that happens? Probably what I do: apologize, make nice, defuse the situation and then, everyone mollified, life goes on. That is not what I am griping about here. What infuriates me are situations where someone will somehow see himself as innocent, all evidence to the contrary notwithstanding. Then, he will refuse to accept responsibility for causing the problem and for doing whatever is necessary to make it go away.
Where the hell is my coffee? I think I should take a break and read someone else's blog posts for a few minutes. That should calm me down.