tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post1182503543046692..comments2023-10-28T09:25:39.790-04:00Comments on The Atavist: A clean slateThe Atavisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12529157597486952484noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-46168967836357369532007-05-08T09:19:00.000-04:002007-05-08T09:19:00.000-04:00I have often wondered, with all the yammering and ...I have often wondered, with all the yammering and blame in the political arena, how anything gets done. Truth is, not much is getting done these days. At least nothing positive.<BR/><BR/>As for minding our own business and tending to our own gardens...amen.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040757371778588395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-58339587997783653142007-05-08T09:12:00.000-04:002007-05-08T09:12:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040757371778588395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-70565418741487500752007-05-07T19:12:00.000-04:002007-05-07T19:12:00.000-04:00Jen: I had every intention of writing on the topi...Jen: I had every intention of writing on the topic but can't seem to find the time right now. <BR/><BR/>Penny: Yep, you got it: act like a doormat and you will become a doormat. That's a lesson that we often don't learn until we have allowed ourselves to be abused for far too long, even if we do have nerves of steel. My son is basically a nice kid, a rank amateur in the realm of abuse. I have known others, though over the years, that would walk on you with considerable glee if you let them.<BR/><BR/>Galt: You're right. Whenever there is the slightest doubt in my mind about the correct course of action, all I have to do is remember my parents. They walked the talk every day of the week.<BR/><BR/>Belleza: absolutely, and whether giving or receiving...The Atavisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12529157597486952484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-89571174629271381932007-05-06T17:49:00.000-04:002007-05-06T17:49:00.000-04:00Forgiveness, a sweet elixir...Forgiveness, a sweet elixir...Bellezza https://www.blogger.com/profile/18073864187188953633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-55616887953000605202007-05-06T03:41:00.000-04:002007-05-06T03:41:00.000-04:00Amen.Glad you didn't save it for Sunday, because i...Amen.<BR/>Glad you didn't save it for Sunday, because it's something we all need to hear til we do it a bit more.<BR/>Thanks.TheWayfarerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15074292938877766871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-65501127949511288122007-05-05T22:53:00.000-04:002007-05-05T22:53:00.000-04:00I dated a Mr. Nerves of Steel and found myself rel...I dated a Mr. Nerves of Steel and found myself releasing my frustration on him verbal occassionally, because nothing phased him and it made me feel better in the least, and in the most, may have warranted a response. Temporarily, we became the vent-cuz-I-can and I-feel-nothing duo, except that he did feel and I didn't realize it and my venting did nothing to improve either of our situations.<BR/><BR/>We teach people how to treat us. If we allow them to vent, they will. If we adorn ourselves with signs welcoming abuse, abuse we shall receive. If we act like we can handle anything, everything we will handle. If we are never hurt, no one will mind themselves to not hurt us. And, if we ask people to take responsibility for their actions against us, they will, they will, in the least, be made to think of them. <BR/><BR/>Sounds like your son just took for granted the persona you presented and that it was easy to justify an outburst, because you are the one that contains yourself and responds on the fuel of rationale and he is one that for a moment did not want to control his reaction and knew that even if hurtful, temporarily, you'd balance like a well weighted blow up punching doll.<BR/><BR/>It's good that you let him know that you are human, too. When my Nerves of Steel informed me of this fact, I felt very bad and realized just how much I must have hurt him in ways that he hadn't bothered to share with me.<BR/><BR/>Our world is the same. A lack of communication - real communication and a whole lot of frustration and rationalization. <BR/><BR/>We feel, we react, we justify; we are contained in our tiny universes and we accept this dog-eat-dog civilization. <BR/><BR/><I>People are blinded by rhetoric, by propaganda, by bullshit.</I> And, people are equally lazy. And, self-interested. ...Why should we stuff our fears and frustrations or bother to learn about another group or person's situation, the world has put upon us and we spend enough time in a day working for others, working for our family, and if we vent, ignore or complain - this is our right and if anyone does not like it, that is their right.. and everyone is claiming their right to negate manners and etiquette and education. And, to blame everyone else for the reasons why they do it and for the fact that others do it...<BR/><BR/>It's a sad state of affairs.<BR/><BR/>Just keep talking, Atavist. Communication is Key. You know it, your son knows it; and, the world is a brighter place thanks to those who do not fear to cut the bullshit, open their minds and eyes, forgive a slight and hold the door open for a moment.SuperP.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06830641369098524799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6931353.post-30032792547635506112007-05-04T23:01:00.000-04:002007-05-04T23:01:00.000-04:00forgiveness. we've battled that around quite a bi...forgiveness. we've battled that around quite a bit lately. Julie at the Ravin Maven has a round up if you are interested, mr. nerves of steel.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.com